Jul 23, 2017
From domestic abused to Boss - Tori Tolbert
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Tori Tolbert Blaqueline Entertainment
CEO[/caption] Tori Tolbert is the editor and chief of Blaqueline
magazine. She is a highly intelligent, vibrant and honest
individual who suffered domestic mental and physical abuse at the
hands of her previous partner for twelve years. During the twelve
year period of her life, she constantly moved forward, progressing
toward her life goals inspire of her poor relationship. learning to
compartmentalize the relationship that caused so much grief. The
mission for living today for Tori is sharing her story to empower
people who are in an abusive relationship. We all need angels to
guide us at various points in our life and God has provided another
in Tori Tolbert.
Stay positive - This too shall pass
When a woman is fed up and emotionally disconnected, there is
nothing you can do to change her mind. Tori was that fed up woman.
Fed up with the situation, she plotted her escape for
about a year. Her plan was making baby steps of empowerment to move
away from the negative energy relationship. There are ground rules
for those suffering at the hands of another. If the rules are not
obeyed then there is a price to pay. A hefty emotional and
sometimes physical loss is usually the price for the smallest
infraction of the rules. The best part of being in a game with
rules is finding the weakness to exploit for max benefit. No matter
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Embarrassing secrets
The obvious emotion Tori endured was the personal embarrassment.
Once again we go back to plotting in her baby steps, subtly letting
people around her know about the abuse she was enduring.
Planning her escape from the torment of her home, was the
driving force future prosperity. One tactic she used to bring
people into her world was to pass an emergency contact in case
something happened out of her control. Tori stated during our
interview " I gave my mother as an emergency contact, in the event
something physical happened." Most people would wonder why her
spouse would not be the emergency contact unless Tori's spouse
could not be trusted. Subtle Ray's of Hope and empowerment were
gaining momentum in her actions. In a portion of the interview,
Tori let me know she had a 5:30 pm curfew, to which she began
pushing the boundaries by five minutes in an act of defiance.
It was the little victories giving her the strength to move
forward with her independence from her abusive spouse. She
endured the abuse for twelve years until she had enough. Some
of you may be thinking this is a great Tyler Perry movie, but it
was real life. She explained an accomplishment never actually
materializing. Tori tried out and landed a spot for a cheerleading
position with a professional football team. It was all for nothing
because her spouse squashed p the move. Listening to Tori's story
gave me an understanding of these types of relationships.
People who abuse other typically have suffered themselves.
Still, dreams never die, they just morph and reform.
Some People Refuse to be helped
Controlling the environment of the relationship, or possibly being
the victim of abuse themselves, is often at the root.
Minorities, particularly in America have placed a negative stigma
on seeking professional help or asking for help. We all have
the ability to get help. There are plenty of
places, website, and opportunities for those who require help.
Seeking someone to speak with for guidance, and help is
available through your local human resources, churches, and civic
programs. Tori lays bare from the abuse to her departure from man
to her new found love during the podcast. Her purpose is to show
individuals relating to her story, there is hope and a way out.
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So much to say.
We talked for an hour and could have talked for 4 hours. The point
of it all, we cannot define ourselves by what others have done to
us. Dreams are real and must never be laid to rest. NEVER GIVE IN,
or give up. visit
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